In keeping with our current theme of TIPS for sharing housing, here’s yet another one.
One of the things that really makes the Senior Flatmates situation work for us is that we get time away from each other. I remember when I was married. I often needed a break to be on my own. Lucky for me, I traveled to speak around the country, so I often got that break. I was always pretty independent, traveled when young and needed alone time. My husband was more of a homebody.
Dina and I both love to travel. She has friends upstate and visits for long weekends. She also travels out of state or country. I visit Austin where my son is frequently and travel for my work.
I relish my time on my own when Dina is gone as does she.
So, why is this important? “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” they say. I’m very used to having Dina to talk with at the end of the day. I miss that and thus, appreciate it more when I return. I know she feels the same. It’s like having best girlfriends to share everything with.
Another reason it’s important for me is because I get a bit crabby sometimes and need a break. I definitely don’t want my crabbiness to come out on her.
Lastly, I know that when I get away, I have a chance to see the world (and my life) newly or differently. I always come back emotionally refreshed, even if physically tired.
In that vein, right now, we are in the midst of separate travel. Dina is visiting friends for the weekend. I am flying out this afternoon for an eight day trip abroad … a new adventure.
It’s a good thing there’s WIFI around the world. We will definitely keep in touch with each other.
Remember, a bit of time away doesn’t need to be long or costly. You can go to a little B&B for a night in a nearby place that is pretty and relaxing or that is bustling. You get to choose.