It’s been a challenging year. Dina has been watching the deteriorating health of her elderly parents. She’s also had less time to deal with her writing and other projects.
I have had some challenges around having enough work to keep me at the earning level I’m used to and need.
There are a few more examples of the “not so good” experiences. However, boring you with that isn’t helpful nor is it positive for moving forward. So, let’s take a look at how we, the flatmates, deal with these times.
1. We support each other through them. I’m a support to Dina with her parents and even visit them with her, make recommendations, etc.
2. Dina brainstorms with me about ideas for building business or at the very least offers herself as a sounding-board, to help me say things out loud.
3. We often take ourselves out to a nice Happy Hour, where wine and food are affordable, and we can have a great time “away”.
4. We also cook together, sit for a nice meal and sometimes go to movies together.
5. We always check in to see how the other is doing and if we have any needs.
6. We are considerate, give each other space as needed.
7. We watch tv together and laugh or cry (depending on what we are watching.)
8. We get annoyed (as in pissed off) when we watch the news and have been known to swear and yell at the newscasters. This is quite fun for us.
Now, I’m sure there are many other things we offer one another, but these come to mind. The point of this discussion is that two heads are better than one. When on our own, we don’t think of all the possibilities, the scenarios. However, when we discuss together, we see a much wider set of options. We see past each others’ “blindspots.”
If you don’t have the chance to be living with another person, we hope you have that very close friend or loved one who is there in similar ways.
Lastly, since today IS the last day of 2014, I hope you will take a bit of quiet time and look within about what has worked and what has not worked this past year. Then, go one step further and make a list of what you are grateful for. Finally, if you’re ready, put down a few bullet points about some steps to take in the first quarter of 2015.
We both wish you all a very Happy New Year.