In our last post, you were invited to begin the conversation with us on how to create your own Senior Flatmates experience. While we aren’t in the business of creating matches, we are inviting you to comment and ask away. Let’s discuss it.
Some people wonder how we get along all the time. We’ve said that we don’t fight, or argue. Here’s the answer — we are incredibly honest in our conversations with each other. Think about it this way: If you’ve had a spouse, or children or parents, or friends, or co-workers (so that should include everyone) what has probably sustained the relationship(s) has been your ability to speak up. The key to sharing what you’re thinking, however, is how you say what you need to say.
Neither Dina nor I are ever rude to one another. We might question what one of us might be doing or we might disagree, but it’s all done with respect and not with judgment. So, in your process of thinking about co-housing, getting down in the beginning with HOW you want to talk with each other is Key. I learned early on about myself that I’m probably the most sensitive person I know. I cry at the drop of a pin. If you look at me sideways or raise an eyebrow in judgment, I retreat. Dina knows that and has from the very beginning. She, on the other hand is stronger than that and I know I can say whatever I want to her and she will take it well.
So, how can you ask a potential flatmate about their preference in how to be spoken to or with? Well, that’s simple … just ask.
• Are you a sensitive person?
• How do you like to receive feedback?
• Can I trust you to be kind and gentle in your requests of me?
These are conversation starters for opening up. We wish you well and invite your questions and comments.